Everyone knows that first impressions are important.
For a family hoping to adopt, their chance to make a good first impression with a birth mother comes when they create their profile.
I’m going to tell you how to fix your adoption profile booklet… but first here are some things that might be wrong with it:
It’s good to let the expectant parents know who you are…
But this can be accomplished with fewer words than what you might have on your adoption profile booklet already.
Less is more.
You do not want to overwhelm the expectant mother with too much information considering she has multiple profiles to look over.
If it is too much to read, she might just skip over your profile all together.
Include pictures, but not too many.
Having a few pictures of your family is a great way to make a connection with an expectant mother.
Try to communicate a sense of your family dynamic.
You might put in a few family vacation photos or pictures from holiday gatherings. Or maybe one where everyone is goofing off.
Highlight all the members of your household, including pets.
Make sure your photos are explained somehow: add captions or short blurbs about how these photos represent your family.
Don’t make it a full-blown photo album, though.
The pictures you include should be just enough to help the expectant parent imagine what their child’s life would be like as part of your family.
Too much and you risk the images running together.
Eight pages (that is, four sheets of paper printed front and back) is plenty of space to tell an expectant mother about yourselves and include a few photos.
Too much information can be overwhelming.
Keep in mind that the birth mother will be looking at five to ten profiles at a time: if your profile is too long she may just skip it entirely.
An expectant parent can detect when something is being forced.
Try not to worry so much about looking good to an expectant parent but rather be who you are!
It makes it that much easier to have a truly genuine connection to them.
It’s okay to let the expectant parents know that their child will be well off…
But try to stay away from giving away too much information where it might be viewed as you bragging.
Tell the expectant parents about the life and experiences you want to give her child.
If you’ve already started a college fund, don’t be afraid to mention it.
Be tactful, but of course: don’t flaunt wealth or be pretentious.
Instead, focus on the baby and what you want for him or her.
DO NOT include personal information like addresses, phone numbers, social media accounts and your last names in your adoption profile booklet!
Sadly, there are people who scam adoptive families.
Putting your information for everyone and anyone makes it easy for people with bad intentions.
At this stage in the adoption process, it’s always better to communicate through an intermediary.
It’s also important to avoid being too specific about where you live because it may be possible to narrow down who you are.
It’s okay to mention the name of your community if it is fairly large…
FOR EXAMPLE: “a suburb of Tulsa, OK”
but not if there aren’t many other people…
SUCH AS: Bokchito, OK, population 655
Potential birth parents may want to know what your family does in your spare time and on holidays.
What you do as a family shows expectant parents the type of lifestyle their child would have.
Also, many expectant parents worry that their baby will feel disconnected or won’t have any roots.
Share with them the values and the culture that you want to pass on.
It’s difficult and expensive getting match even when you have an awesome adoption profile booklet. Maybe this will help…
Making a family profile should be fun.
This is your chance to say a bit about who you are and what’s important in your life.
Don’t worry too much about the design but the content you put into it!
What will make your profile appeal to an expectant mother is the glimpse it gives her into your family, not the technical skill with which it was crafted.