Many families do not understand what birth mother living expenses are or why they pay them.
There is a misconception that it is like “paying the birth mother for choosing adoption,” which is completely false.
Birth mother living expenses are court-approved moneys provided by adoptive families to birth mothers to help cover their pregnancy-related costs.
Women who place for adoption usually cannot financially support a baby and sometimes even themselves. That is why they choose adoption.
Adoptive families should think of living expenses as what it sounds like.
Depending on her state’s adoption laws, a birth mother may be eligible for living expenses to help pay for items such as rent, utilities, transportation, food, maternity clothes, cell phone and more.
Many birth mothers work fulltime jobs, but as they continue further into their pregnancies, the less hours they are able to possibly work.
Living expenses help them during the pregnancy for things like:
It is important to know that you should always distribute the birth mother living expense through a third party. In most cases this is the attorney you are working with.
The attorney in most circumstances will pay rent directly to the landlord, utilities directly to the utility companies, and distribute grocery money via reloadable gift cards.
This is important so you know your money is going to the things it is suppose to be going to.
In most cases, this gives adoptive parents peace of mind.
It is important to remember that if these women could afford these basic needs they would not be in the position where placing for adoption is best. Try to keep an open mind and understanding when it comes to birth mother living expenses.