Pregnant woman holding belly with text, "Putting My Baby Up For Adoption"

Many women who are unsure about their pregnancy ask themselves, “Is putting my baby up for adoption the best option?” and “How does the adoption process work?”

Adopt Connect has provided steps for the adoption process but first women in this position should know the negative context in the phrase, “putting my baby up for adoption.”

Women who make the decision to place put much thought in it. Using terms like “giving up” or “putting up” sounds like the child is a possession. “Placing” is the correct terminology.

For more information on positive adoption language click here.

  1. Knowing your options.

pregnant woman holding her belly

Adoption is an option. If you are thinking of placing your baby for adoption, some questions you might ask are:

  • How does the adoption process work?
  • Is adoption free?
  • Can I choose the family?
  • Will I be allowed to communicate with my child after the adoption?
  • Can I remain anonymous and protect my identity from disclosure?
  • What about the Birthfather?

These are all good questions and Adopt Connect is ready to answer them!

Throughout this blog we will explain and take you through the adoption process step by step and answer all the questions above.

If by the end you have more questions, our Adoption Coordinators are available 24/7 at (866) 743-9212.


  1. Choosing An Adoption Professional

woman looking through window thinking about putting baby up for adoption

If you choose to work with Adopt Connect, there is no fee on your end.

If you wish to protect your identity, we can provide you with that option.

It is important to cooperate and provide any information that is requested. This includes:

  • Drug use
    • Do not lie or withhold this information.
    • The more honest you are, the easier it is to find you the right family. Lots of families are open to drug use.
  • Birthfather
    • Do not lie or withhold this information.
    • If you say you don’t know who the father is or where the other parent is, but actually do, this can actually stop the adoption and you could be held in contempt for lying to the court.
    • If you think the birthfather will not agree with the adoption, Adopt Connect can help you serve him with notice of the adoption hearing.
    • If a birthfather wants to contest the adoption, he must:
      • Acknowledge the pregnancy.
      • Prove he has (or intended to) have a relationship with the child and be prepared to provide support.
      • He will have to have his own attorney.

Remember, there’s no need to be embarrassed: our Adoption Coordinators are not here to judge you. At Adopt Connect, we care about your interests and want you to be comfortable.


  1. Creating An Adoption Plan

woman's hand holding pen on notebook that reads "my plan"

We want you to feel comfortable in every decision you make and that is why you are in charge of the adoption process.

Our Adoption Coordinators will help you with creating an adoption plan with exactly what you want out of the adoption.

Some things to think about when creating an adoption plan are figuring out your preferences like:

  • Open adoption/closed adoption.
  • You have a choice weather family has religion or not.
  • This helps us give you the right options of families to choose from.


  1. Choosing The Right Family

Young woman reading adoption profile with her feet up

Once you know what you are looking for in a family, Adopt Connect can gather families with your preferences.

You would then:

  • Look at adoption profiles.
  • From there you choose 3 families or more families you felt connected with.
    • Make sure to choose those that match your hopes and expectations for your child.
  • Adopt Connect will schedule conference calls with each family.
    • This give you a chance to ask them questions and get to know them more.
    • An Adopt Connect Adoption Coordinator will be on the phone as well to help and support you.
  • Then you choose the family you are comfortable with.
    • You are considered matched with that family.
    • Both parties can decided the type of communication you want during pregnancy.
      • Calls, meetings, emails, texts, etc.


  1. Living Expenses

woman sitting on ledge looking through window thinking

Once you are matched with a family, living expenses will be available to you if needed. Relocating is an option. This includes:

  • Support during the pregnancy
  • Assistance with medical bills
  • Legal fees


  1. Creating A Birth Plan

woman thinking

Creating a birth plan is important.

Your birth plan is much like your adoption plan in that you have full control.

When the actual birth happens, you want to be as comfortable as possible.

This means figuring out:

  • If you would like the adoptive family at the hospital?
  • If yes, would you like them in the delivery room?
  • After the birth, do you want to spend the first night with the baby?



  1. Placement And Finalization

woman's hand holding pen signing papers

This is the time in the adoption process that you are actually consenting to the adoption.

Once your baby is born, most states have a waiting period to give you time to recover from the birth and not be under the influence of pain medication.

The waiting period can be as short as 12 hours or up to 15 days but usually you must wait 48-72 hours before you can sign the adoption paperwork.

Most states have a short window where you have a right to change your mind after the papers are signed.

Birthmothers always have the right to consult with an independent attorney before you sign the consent forms.


  1. After Finalization

camera, glasses, paper, and pen on a table

After finalization is completed you will have the communication you have agreed upon with the adoptive family.

This might be:

  • Letters, pictures, emails, visits, etc.

You usually decide this in your adoption plan but once you have built a relationship with the adoptive family, this can change over time.

Both parties may want more contact over time.

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