Adopt-Connect: Teenage Prgnancy

Teenage Pregnancy can be a really scary deal!

You are probably scared, confused, and asking yourself what are the next steps from here?

How am I going to tell my parents? Am I ready for this responsibility? What are my options?

My advice would be decide what you are comfortable with. Every situation is different and every person is different.

You might want to talk to your parents first. By doing this they may be able to help you make a decision.

If you feel more comfortable, you can decide on your own. This may make talking to your parents easier because you have a plan in place. But what are your options? How do you create a pregnancy plan?

Here is more information on talking to your parents. Click here.

You have three options to think about: abortion, adoption, or parenting. Learning about all of your options may help decide what path to choose. Only you know what is best for you and what you’re okay with.

OPTION 1: ABORTION

Many people have their different views on abortion. What is right for somebody might be wrong for you. If you already know abortion is the wrong decision for you, just skip this section!

Abortion is the removal of an embryo or fetus from the uterus in order to end a pregnancy. There are two different ways to terminate a pregnancy; an in-clinic abortion or an abortion pill. If you do consider this option, talk to your doctor about what method you feel is best for you. For more information on each method click here. You have until your 20th week of pregnancy to perform the procedure. Abortion is considered safe but the risk to your health increases the further into your pregnancy you are.  Women under the age of 18 need either parents or legal guardians to consent depending on the laws in your state.

If you want to parent your baby and your parents disagree, here is a good resource for you. Click here.

 

OPTION 2: ADOPTION

Adoption is the act or process of placing a child to be adopted.

Adoption is a good option if you do not have the means (financially, emotionally, physically, etc.) to parent a child. 6.7 million women, who range from ages 15-44, have an impaired ability to get pregnant or carry a baby to term, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention.

These women and other families with the passion to adopt, have the means and the love to welcome a child into their home.

Each state has different adoption laws but the process is usually the same.

 

Adopt Connect’s Process:

  1. First, we ask for some background information from you. Ex: Your due date, proof of pregnancy, some medical history, what type of adoption you would like, and family preferences.

 

For more information on what to consider when picking family and adoption preferences click here.

 

  1. After, we collect profiles matching your preferences and send them to you. You can take as much time as you need when looking through these family profiles. We ask you to pick your top 3 families you feel like you have a connection with.
  2. We set up a conference call with you and each family you have picked if you are willing. This gives you a chance to really make a connection, get a feel to see if it is a right fit, and if you are comfortable with the family. This is the perfect opportunity to ask questions like what kind of parents are you going to be? How will you handle certain situations as a family? What are your parenting beliefs?
  3. Once you are 100 % sure and comfortable with the family you choose, you are considered matched!
  4. From this point we connect you with the right services you need and financial assistance with be available if you need it.

This is OUR process and might vary depending on the adoption professional you decide to work with.

There are many pros and cons to adoption. It is up to you to decide if the pros outweigh the cons and if you are capable of being okay with your decision. To help you, make a list of your own pros and cons.

 

OPTION 3: PARENTING

With all the romanticized images of children and parenthood floating around, it can sometimes be hard to realize you are not ready for parenthood. You have to be financially and emotionally stable. You have to ask yourself tough questions like, “Can I afford to raise a baby?”

Financially

Not only do you have consider costs for when the child is an infant but costs for their life until they are 18 years of age. Here is a neat resource to see where you sit financially. Click here.

Things to consider:

  • Formula Cost: $60-$100 per month
  • Diapers Cost: $30-$85 per month
  • Childcare/Babysitting Cost: can vary per month
    • Ask yourself, do you have someone who can watch your child while you are at work or school? How much would it cost?
  • Clothes Cost: $20-$50 per month
  • Food After Your Baby Starts Solid Food Cost: $50-$100 per month
  • Miscellaneous Costs: $50-$400
    • Depends on where you can get items like a car seat, crib, stroller, etc.

(Information and numbers from ‘Baby Center’)

There are ways you can save financially. You can make it work if parenting is the decision you want to go with, but the tough reality of it is that it is extremely hard.

Emotionally

Being emotionally stable is an important aspect of raising a child. When you decide to parent, a child has to rely on you and you have to support that child 24/7. This can be emotionally overwhelming.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Do I have support from my friends and family?
  • Do I have help if I need it? (Often, people say they will help but disappear after a week or two.)
    • If no, am I prepared to raise a baby all alone?
  • Can I handle the stress of worrying about the future?
  • Can I handle the financial stress?
  • Can you handle putting you baby first?
    • Less time for yourself?
  • Can you handle the stress of more responsibility?

These are important things to think about. If you feel like you are financially and emotionally stable to parent, that’s great! But if not, you have to think what is best for not only yourself but your child as well.

 

Remember you always have options! The most important thing is that you make a decision based off of what you are comfortable with.  For more resources for teenage pregnancy, click here.

 

REFERENCES

 

 

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Center for Young Women’s Health. (n.d.). Retrieved August 24, 2015, from http://youngwomenshealth.org/2014/09/05/pregnancy-abortion/

 

Infertility. (2015, February 6). Retrieved August 25, 2015, from http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/infertility.htm

 

Is parenthood for you? | BabyCenter. (n.d.). Retrieved August 25, 2015, from http://www.babycenter.com/0_is-parenthood-for-you_7169.bc

 

Thinking about Abortion? | Information to Help you Decide. (n.d.). Retrieved August 24, 2015, from http://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/pregnancy/pregnant-now-what/thinking-about-abortion

 

Top baby costs, and how to save | BabyCenter. (n.d.). Retrieved August 25, 2015, from http://www.babycenter.com/top-baby-costs

 

 

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