There are a variety of kinds of emotional support that birth mothers and fathers can make use of. There are local and online groups of birth parents where you can seek the advice of those who have been your shoes. There are also organizations dedicated to the helping birth parents. Of course, there’s no substitute for the care of a qualified professional.
Professional counseling before and after an adoption is one of the most important support services for birth parents. There’s no sugarcoating it: adoption is a difficult, sometimes traumatic experience for birth parents, even when they are certain it is the best decision for them and their child. The right choice can also be the hardest choice. With any major life-changing event including adoption, seeking professional counseling is a good idea.
Unfortunately, many people who would benefit from counseling do not seek it. Some people are embarrassed at the idea of receiving mental health care, others simply don’t recognize their own need or believe that they could be helped.
We do everything we can to make the use of appropriate mental health services part of every adoption plan, but following through with that plan is ultimately in the hands of the individual birth mother (and father, if he is involved). Below are some resources that you can make use of any time to get the emotional support you need.
Important Note: If you are having thoughts of suicide or are otherwise afraid that you may hurt yourself or others, go to the Emergency Room or call 911 immediately.
Money should never be a reason for not getting any kind of necessary medical service. Make sure you are using all available resources to make your care as affordable as possible.